Chappell Roan is officially off the market, and it’s not just some fleeting romance. The pop star, whose real name is Kayleigh Rose Amstutz, has confirmed she’s in a serious relationship, and she’s been with her partner for at least six months. She dropped this revelation on March 26, 2025, during an episode of Call Her Daddy with Alex Cooper. And when we say serious, we mean serious—Chappell declared she’s “very in love.”
She didn’t disclose her girlfriend’s name, but she did share a few key details. They met through a friend, and their relationship actually predates her recent explosion in popularity. In fact, she admitted that if she hadn’t already been dating this mystery woman, she would probably be “so f—— single” right now because she doesn’t trust anyone new.
The idea of dating in the public eye freaks her out. “I’m scared,” she confessed. “I don’t trust anyone. Any new person that I am texting, I’m like, I’m assuming they will screenshot this and send it to someone else.” That paranoia is valid—celebrities’ private lives are dissected endlessly. But lucky for Chappell, she found someone she trusts before all the chaos.
Chappell Roan Is Dating a Mystery Woman Whom She Met Before Fame
One thing is clear: Chappell Roan is the initiator in her love life. When Alex Cooper asked who made the first move, she didn’t hesitate: “In every circumstance, I make the first move.” She also made it clear that she’s all about giving in the bedroom, too, stating, “I do everything for my girlfriend.” However, PDA is a hard no for her. “Don’t f—— do that,” she said. “Don’t. Actually, legit don’t. I just got really stressed out.” Message received.
This relationship wasn’t a total surprise for fans who have been following her journey. Back in September 2024, Chappell gave Rolling Stone a glimpse into her love life, mentioning a girl she was seeing who was “completely outside” of the music industry. “She’s so awesome and so secure in herself and [has told me] ‘No pressure, we can just be friends if you want,’” she had said at the time. Chappell also admitted she was feeling “delusional” about the idea of committing, joking, “What? I can’t get married!” But despite her self-proclaimed avoidant tendencies, it seems like things worked out between them—assuming this is the same person.
Chappell has also revealed her type, and her description is strangely specific. On Call Her Daddy, she laid it all out: “I love art girls, like weird art girls, girls who love to read and who are very niche. I like a girl that collects things and is okay with an exotic pet, owned a hamster one time and would own one again.” But that’s not all—her ideal girl doesn’t care about her car, isn’t scared of bugs or snakes, and must love foreign films. Whoever her girlfriend is, she probably checks all these boxes.
This is the first serious relationship Chappell has spoken about publicly since her rise to fame, though she has hinted at past romances. She was once in a long-term relationship with a man while writing songs like Red Wine Supernova and Naked in Manhattan, a time when she hadn’t even kissed a girl yet. “I was dating a boy then,” she told The Los Angeles Times in 2023. “It was all what I wished my life could be.”
Eventually, she embraced her queer identity, and by August 2023, she had started dating women, though she admitted she was scared of kissing her girlfriend in public, even in a city like Los Angeles. “Homophobia is in the back of my head,” she said. “It’s liberating, but there’s a new set of problems that I didn’t know existed.”
Her experiences with love haven’t always been smooth. She once described herself as “so avoidant” and has spoken openly about her struggles with trust and intimacy. A particularly rough breakup inspired her song My Kink Is Karma, which she called the “worst breakup I’ve ever had.” When she performed it at Coachella in April 2024, she even threw a direct jab at her ex: “B—- I know you’re watching, and all those horrible things happening to you are karma. It’s me!” Iconic.
Now, though, it seems like Chappell—who has two highly supportive parents—has found something real and stable. She still insists that she’s “pro-single” and encourages people to spend time alone before jumping into relationships. “Have a great time alone. Find out for yourself if you can 100% be okay alone before you date,” she said on Call Her Daddy. “That’s what I found out. I had a great time when I was single. And I know that I will be okay. And now I have an awesome time that I’m with someone.”
So, while Chappell Roan’s girlfriend remains a mystery, we know she’s someone secure, artsy, and apparently down with hamsters. And most importantly, she makes Chappell happy. That’s all that really matters.
